I had been experiencing a lot of worry about what I should and shouldn't be doing. Initially, I tried looking at blogs and Yahoo answers and so on in an attempt to understand what's right. That was wrong. If you're going through the same thing, then don't. It just confuses you further. M and I have discussed things at great length. Things from whether or not I should be touching his breasts to what I should call him when referring to things that happened when he went by his given female name. Some transmen will hate any reminders that they were born female, some don't necessarily hate it but there's an awkwardness surrounding it. My advice would be just to ask. M has a well rounded attitude to my questions and his past. I like it. It makes me feel like I can do this with him. I was so worried about upsetting him with various things, that I often panicked about things and felt stress when there needn't have been. His approachability makes things easier. We talk through everything, and have a laugh about most of it (esp when discussing sizes of packing dongs, as you can imagine).
I have been blessed, I suppose. But if there are situations that we don't know the answers to, we can resort to either other blogs, google, doctors, or the various groups/meetings that are in our area for help. Like, we know nothing about the legal side of things, so we're looking in to that at the moment. (Anyone know of any legal types working in that sort of area? Might be helpful to us)
Anyway, I must head off now...
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